Myth or Fact: Being on the pill will make it harder to get pregnant in the future.
Myth. It is possible to get pregnant right after you stop taking the pill. Not just the pill, but all methods of contraception, except the shot. Which can take up to 6-9 months for all the hormones of the shot to leave your body.
Vanessa, Sex Educator
Q:I shave my vagina and I've notice I've gotten some scars here and there, like just random darker spots. I've never had sex, but I may soon so I'm kind of embarrassed of them. Is there anything I can use to get rid of the scars? Would a guy really care/notice?
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Orgasms differ not only from person to person, but also from occurrence to occurrence within the same person. Having sex with a partner might be amazing one night, and then be terrible the next morning. Remember, sexual experiences are like a movie: yeah, the ending is pretty important, but it’s what builds up to the ending that makes it worth it!
Myth or Fact
When having penis-in-vagina intercourse, if the person with the penis doesn’t ejaculate at all then the person with the vagina can’t get pregnant.
Myth! Usually not, but it still can happen. Withdrawal (“pulling out” or a person with a penis not ejaculating at all), used perfectly, which means a person doesn’t ejaculate at all, or does, but only outside and away from the vagina or genitals, presents around a 4% risk of pregnancy per year of use. Sometimes sperm may be present in pre-ejaculate, which is likely why 4% of perfect withdrawal users become pregnant. The likeliness of sperm being present in pre-ejaculate is higher if the person with the penis has ejaculated recently or has not urinated before intercourse.
Cindy, Sex Educator
Myth or Fact
You can contract Herpes from a toilet seat.
Myth. Herpes Simplex Virus can only be spread through direct skin-to-skin contact. The virus is most commonly spread through mucous membranes found in the mouth, genitals, and anus.
- Jabriel, Researcher
The Treatment of sex education in American public schools illustrates how a sexually repressive culture strives to render human sexuality invisible. Sex education remains a hot topic, with students receiving spotty information at best. Topics that are important to adolescents have been difficult to include within sex education programs. Despite high student interest and a growing recognition that comprehensive sex education might save lives, programs tend to shy away from discussing sexuality before marriage, the use of contraception, homosexuality, and other controversial topics. Ironically, the checkered pattern of research on human sexuality offers a good case for how heterosexism operates as a system of power that negatively affects straight and lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered (LGBT) students alike. Because adolescents of all sexual orientations are in process of forming sexual identities, they are especially affected by heterosexism
Q:Hi, i am starting my first pack of the pill and its the 28 day one. so when i start the second pack do i just start it on my 29th day, or what if I dont have a period that starts on teh 29th. does that matter?
Myth or Fact?
You cannot breastfeed if you have or have ever had a nipple piercing.
MYTH! Because nipples are pierced through the base of the nipple (and not the fatty part of the breast), piercings do not damage the milk ducts. Most people have no problems breast feeding after having nipple piercings. Some people have even found that milk flows more easily through nipples that have been pierced.
While some people leave their piercings in while they are breastfeeding, it is important to remember that jewelry can be a choking hazard, and any bacteria around the jewelry could pose a risk to a nursing child. If you want to keep your piercing(s) in during the nursing period, you can take out the piercing(s) before nursing, clean your nipple(s) and the jewelry, and then reinsert the jewelry after nursing.
-Tuggle, Masakhane Sex Educator
This week, disturbing elevator security footage of footballer Ray Rice was released, depicting him knocking out his then-fiancée (and present wife), Janay Rice, and then dragging her unconscious body out of the elevator. Rice has since been released by the Baltimore Ravens and has been suspended from the NFL indefinitely.
Unfortunately, instead of rallying support for Janay, many people took to social media after the footage was leaked to wonder why she never left and decided to marry Rice. These types of questions are completely inappropriate and feed into a culture of victim-blaming in which the actions of survivors of violence are debated much more than the actions of abusers. Abuse is NEVER the fault of the person who is being abused. It is ALWAYS the fault of the abuser.
Writer Beverly Gooden decided to fight back against this victim blaming by sharing her story of obstacles to leaving her abuser, starting the hashtag #WhyIStayed. Since the video has been released, #whyistayed has been tweeted over 100,000 times, as survivors share their reasons for staying in abusive relationships. Some have also begun to tweet their reasons for leaving with the hastag #whyileft.
Check out the #whyistayed and #whyileft conversation on twitter.
Read about more obstacles to leaving an abuser here.
If you are currently experiencing domestic violence, The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 if you need to speak to someone at any time. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
If you live in NJ, here is a list of Domestic Violence Programs are listed by county.
-Tuggle, Masakhane Sex Educator
Q:I'm an asexual - i think - virgin girl, and I've never been attracted to any living person, but most every time I have free time I think about sex between my favourite fictional characters. I never envision them having sex with me, but i really enjoy thinking about and masturbating to that. Does that not make me asexual? I'm afraid I'm thinking way too much about sex for a girl, though it doesn't interfere with my day.
So being asexual doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t have fantasies about things that turn you on. Fantasies are just that, fantasies! Lesbians might have fantasies about a man and a woman having sex, while heterosexual men might have fantasies about two men having sex. Just because they enjoy the thought doesn’t mean they have to act on it. Thankfully, your sexuality is not limited to one thing, and it’s okay to explore your sexuality and define yourself by your own standards.
Also, if it’s not interfering with your day, you can never think too much about sex! Being a girl makes you just as much of a sexual human as your male counterpart. Keep doing your thing!
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